Intuitive Eating is the opposite of diet. It lets you make peace with food and re-discover your ability to just eat normally. But does Intuitive Eating work? I’m delving more into how you can tell if Intuitive Eating is right for you and I’m sharing some of the most common questions I get about Intuitive Eating.
Spoiler alert: Intuitive Eating is for everyone. Yup, you read that right.
We all are born natural intuitive eaters. But by the time we reach adulthood this ability has been suppressed (usually by years of dieting) to the point where we’re out of touch with our body’s natural eating patterns and feelings of hunger, fullness and satisfaction. But we all have, deep down, the ability to reconnect and recover our inner intuitive eater.
How do you know if you’re out of touch with your body’s natural eating patterns?
- You feeling guilty eating certain foods
- You’ve eliminated specific foods or food groups
- You categorize foods as “good” or “bad”
- You count calories or macros
- You track your food using an app or journal
- You use exercise to offset what you eat
- You’d like to be a certain size or weight
If any of those statements sound like you, you’re not eating intuitively or listening to your body.
How do you know if Intuitive Eating is right for you?
Well, this is kind of a trick question since as I said earlier, Intuitive Eating is for everyone. But if any of the statements below resonate, you’re in a place where Intuitive Eating can help you now.
- You want to feel confident with your food choices
- You want to stop obsessing or thinking about food all the time
- You want to feel calm and in control around food
- You want to be able to trust your body when it tells you it’s hungry and full
- You want to be able to trust yourself around all foods – even those foods that are “trigger foods”
- You want to learn how to cope with your feelings without using food
- You want to exercise because you enjoy it, not to negate the calories you eat.
- You want to be able to eat all foods without any guilt, shame or regret
“But my BMI shows I’m overweight/obese – shouldn’t I lose weight for health reasons?”
This is a question I get all the time. We are so conditioned (and incorrectly taught) to think that higher weight = higher rate of disease and worse health outcomes. But guess what? Study after study after study shows that weight loss does NOT equal health. This is the crux of the Health at Every Size (HAES) movement. HAES is based upon dozens of research studies showing that it’s your behaviors that predict your health, not your body size. People of all different body sizes have similar health improvements when they change their behaviors – regardless of whether or not their weight changes. Don’t forget that 95 percent of people who lose weight gain it back and two-thirds of those people gain back more weight. Long term weight loss is possible only for a select few (i.e. less than 5% of people) and is not the norm for most people. So instead of putting the focus on the number of the scale – which we know for a fact does not work – put a focus on what you CAN do to improve your health. Focus on developing healthier behaviors around stress, sleep, movement and food (Intuitive Eating can help with that food piece). You can read more about the HAES community here and check out this book.
So I will repeat: weight (and weight loss) does not equal health. Intuitive Eating is for you no matter what your weight or body size.
“I’m not happy with my weight, should I lose weight before trying Intuitive Eating?”
Here’s another one I hear all the time. A client just asked me this a few weeks ago – isn’t she better off losing X pounds first, then she can try Intuitive Eating? I totally get why this seems appealing. Diet culture has sold us the fantasy of a new, perfect diet being right around the corner. Each new diet brings excitement and hope that this diet will be the one that works. For most clients I see, the idea of not dieting can be really scary because it’s the only thing they know of to lose weight. But as long as you’re holding onto the idea that just one more diet will work, or that losing X pounds will make you happier and ready to really start living, you’ll never truly be free of diet culture. A client told me recently how she realized that even though she was a smaller size a few years ago, she was much less happy than she is now. Her weight may have been lower, but she was constantly thinking about food, would frequently argue with her boyfriend about when/what she could eat, and – despite the fact that she was in a smaller body – still didn’t feel good about herself. So think about it: is losing those X pounds really going to make you happier? And – even if you think it might – it’s important to remember the Dieter’s Dilemma or the Guilt-Deprivation Cycle.
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The Dieter’s Dilemma begins with the desire to lose weight which leads to dieting. Dieting leads to feeling deprived, which causes cravings and the overwhelming urge to eat, which leads to overeating or binging. Afterward, the dieter feels out of control and guilty and starts dieting again to regain control. And the cycle continues. The only way to break the cycle: reject the diet mentality and start learning how to eat intuitively.
“If I allow myself to eat anything, won’t I always want unhealthy foods?”
This is a very normal concern, especially if you’ve tried many different diets and only feel like you are choosing nutritious foods because you “should” – rather than because you want to. It’s important to recognize that it is the dieting mentality that causes overeating and binging. So once you learn to make peace with all foods – and your body knows you can have these foods whenever you want – you’ll be able to truly listen to your body’s feelings of hunger, fullness and satisfaction to decide what foods you want to eat. Sometimes these may be less healthy foods, but very often you’ll find that – when you’re really listening to your body – you’ll want more nutritious foods.
“I don’t have the willpower to do Intuitive Eating.”
Here’s the great news: Intuitive Eating has NOTHING to do with willpower! It’s never been about your lack of willpower – it’s the system of dieting that is the problem, and diets set you up for failure. Dieting is a type of forced starvation. When you start to restrict types of food and/or amounts of food, your body switches into survival mode, triggering cravings and overeating. So the more you try to not have chocolate or french fries, the more your body will crave it. But with Intuitive Eating, as you learn to reject the diet mentality and give yourself unconditional permission to eat all the foods, the opposite happens. This is food habituation, where the more you’re exposed to foods, the less your brain thinks of or cares about it and your desire to eat it decreases. As you make peace with food, learn to honor your hunger, feel your fullness, and trust and respect your body, you’ll find that willpower is no longer needed – around any foods.
Here’s a better question for you…
If you don’t do Intuitive Eating, what is the alternative?
If your answer is “another diet” or “dieting”, I urge you to ask yourself “What has your history shown about dieting?” How has it helped you? And, more importantly, how has dieting caused you harm? If you’ve reacted in the past by dieting, it’s likely led to bigger problems including guilt and shame, cravings, weight gain, sluggish metabolism, and disordered eating behaviors – just to name a few.
I’d love to hear from you – please share your thoughts below!
Are you interested in learning more about Intuitive Eating?
I work with clients virtually throughout the US, helping people who are frustrated with dieting change their relationship with food and say goodbye to diets once and for all. You can also learn more about my intuitive eating nutrition coaching programs to see how you can find balance and develop long-term lifestyle habits, no diets required.